You are a pre-teen girl and tell your friends everything. The experiences you share with your girlfriends are pure, raw emotion; from your latest crush to the recent fight with your parents. You're an open book.
One day, a trusted friend betrays you, sharing all of your secrets. Rumor has it, she's told everyone everything, not only who your latest crush is, but also that you're an emotional basket case! Your immediate reaction is to retaliate.
What's the game plan? Do you search for every bad photo ever taken of her? Do you dig up embarrassing stories and casually bring them up to your other friends? There has to be a perfect way to humiliate her.
Sadly, there is no right answer, but there is a wrong one—retaliation. If you retaliate, not only might they believe what she's saying, it may label you a horrible friend. Own your feelings, they are yours. Unfortunately, life is going to hand you people that disguise themselves as friends. The learning lesson may be to not eagerly share every detail of your thoughts and feelings until they've proven themselves to be a true BFF. The other lesson is to live free. When you screw up, own it. If there's a situation requiring an apology, be the first to come forward, and when someone spouts off about you, shake your head and laugh. It will discredit them, and you will appear unfazed.
Question of the Week: With friendships, do you let it all hang out, or do you hold back until the time is right?
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