You're a pre-teen girl and just got a phone for Christmas, or a trampoline, or maybe a puppy! In any case, it's what you wished for and you got it! You call your tween friends to tell them the good news. They are equally excited, except for that one friend. That one is like a thorn in your side. The second you mention your presents you can sense the eye roll, even on the other end of the phone. Your stomach sinks and you immediately ask her about her presents, as to not focus the conversation on yourself. She makes a snarky remark about not getting as much as she wanted and quickly gets off the phone. You take inventory of your gifts and begin to feel deflated and guilty.
IN THAT SPLIT SECOND YOU GAVE AWAY YOUR POWER
That person was jealous and angry about what she didn't get, and took it out on you. Someone will always try to inflict guilt for whatever reason. The key is to view that guilt like a present. Imagine being handed a box full of guilt wrapped in pretty paper with a bow, and that person saying, "Here you go, take this, it will make me feel better." You, in turn, can simply say, "No thanks. I'm good." She will try and try to have you take the present. It's up to you to smile and walk away.
You know in your heart you're a good person. You also know you give back whenever you can, and your family worked hard to get you the presents under the tree. Turn the guilt into gratitude. There is no need to make a big stink about the mean friend. She obviously has her own issues to work out. I would, however, consider keeping her out of your your intimate friend group. Remember to stay kind and don't go down that road. Be yourself, you're perfect just the way you are.
Question of the Week: Do you give away your power?
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