A reason, a season, or a lifetime. When I was growing up as a pre-teen girl, I would hear adults say this many times, but it went in one ear and out the other. Now, looking back at my tween, teen, and adult years, I wish I would've kept those words in my mental library. It may have helped me categorize my friendships, and prevented me from feeling guilty about letting some of them go.
Do you beat yourself up about certain friendships? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells, trying to say the perfect thing to avoid a displeased look? Why? Why do tweens, teens, and adult women hold onto friendships knowing that particular friend took flight eons ago? Some of us have a strong yearning to please our friends, and by doing so, subject ourselves to unnecessary guilt when the friendship ends.
Well, I'm here to tell you, you're off the hook, you're all good, you can stop now. Simply sit down, and take a good look at your friendships. I bet you can separate them into three categories; a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
Some friendships are not destined for longevity, some fill a space for a void needed at the time, and some are meant to last forever. How do you know the difference? That's easy; feelings. Yep, it's that simple. How does a friend make you feel? Are you still giggling about something you experienced together? If a week, month, or even years go by without talking, does it feel like no time has passed when you see them? Are y0u comfortable being your absolute true self when you are in their company?
These are important questions to ask at any age. The people you surround yourself with could ultimately help or hinder your destiny. Choose wisely. This is your life and your choice. If you've been battling with a friendship, try categorizing it. You may be able to let that one go. Why force a lifelong friendship when it was only destined for a reason or a season?
Question of the Week: How would you categorize your friendships?
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